Is it considered bad parenting to pick up your child and throw them in the deep end? This idea of throwing your kid in the pool to teach them how to swim has probably been a practice since Vikings. Though, I can see how people would consider it harsh, I also see the benefit. This generation of kids is being coddled and that’s not helping anyone, including the kids. As it turns out, I was being coddled at work. When Rachael, my bosses executive assistant, absconded on vacation she left me with both her work and my internship work, I now understand how sweet I had it. I quickly realized that it was sink or swim from here on out. Though I pledged to try my best not to sink, there were sometimes that I definitely I got leg cramps and choked a bit as the water got in my lungs.
Making mistakes is not bad, in fact the mistakes I’ve made have helped me learn great lessons this week. For example, I was given a simple task of taking food up to the meeting room and setting up. I’ve set up the food hundreds of times, however this week I was running around for five minutes to ten minutes trying to figure out where the elevators were. The easiest thing would have been to go back to my boss and tell her I don’t know where the elevators are. But I did not want to fail her at such a mundane request, as to take the food upstairs, so I continued to look for them despite my panic about running out of time. Yes, I am sure I looked silly running up and down the halls and yes my feet hurt from running in heels, but I eventually did find the elevator bank and you can bet that I will not forget anytime soon where they are located. And sure enough, the next week when I was given the same task of purchasing food, taking it up to the meeting room, there was no problems. Lesson learned, not the easiest way, but ultimately the way I’ll never forget.
I know people don’t enjoy making mistakes. They would rather learn without having to feel bad for having made a mistake. I understand that, but that “not good feeling” truly changes how you do things, more often than not for the better. And one of the easiest things you can do to not feel silly and stupid is to check your spelling before hitting the send button. I know, spell check, pretty obvious, but I can’t emphasize this enough. You will never feel more silly as when someone responds to your email correcting your spelling of your own name. And to compound this mistake, I sent that email out to a few people before someone corrected me. You can guarantee that I will be reading the email not after, but before I send it.
So you might be thinking after this week of short embarrassing moments that I would be disheartened or upset about having more responsibilities thrust upon me; well you would be incorrect, I thought this week was by far the best. Because though it hurts and feels bad it’s important to mess up, in correcting your mistakes and learning how to accept that your human, is when you truly learn. At any point this week I could have criticize myself harshly, but I corrected my mistakes and accepted that I’m not perfect. And in making these mistakes has ultimately been more effective for my learning.
So if you’re ever in a situation where you’re worried about messing up, be okay with blundering about every once in a while and don’t be too harsh on yourself. The important part after the miscalculation is how you correct and learn from it. And one more random piece of advice that I can give; if you’re calling someone to ask for a favor make sure that you’re calling the right person. Just because they have the same first name doesn’t mean that the same person; I learned that lesson the hard way.
Untill next time